Ninth
Lol, so much for having interesting titles for my posts` Okay~ last night my nj classmates played mJ at my place` tHere were me, huijun, ruhui, vIeve, grace, shiyao and pwc... well, it was tiringly fun` and i ate super alot of supper... sIgh... there goes my healthy lifestyle regime...
aNyway, i was reading this book by John Gray, "Men are from Mars and wOmen are from venus"... I was on this chapter about scoring points with the opposite sex. and he said that every men keeps a scoreboard within himself either conciously or unconciously... in this scoreboard, whenever he does sth which he feels will make his partner happy, he adds points to himself, say... maybe 10 points if he buys her a ring ( my own eg)... And his partner earns points on his scoreboard by doing things that pleases him, such as givin him appreciation or admiration. (I think this is quite true, at least for me... haha) Okay, anyway, when the man's points is low, the man will be willing to do many things for the woman unconditionally... and when he feels that he has earned a respectable amt of pts, he will just lay back and relax, and allow his partner to satisfy him, sort of giving her a chance to even out the score... In the man's mind, he thinks that she will stop giving when the points are almost even out. however, in the venusian mind, when the man stops giving, she'll give more and expect the man to understand and to start giving again... tHus, this will cause the martian to feel that his pts are still alot higher than the venusians, and will then take a break from giving... This explains why most men appear more active at the start of the r/s and tend to become passive towards the end`
this is like, WOW~ and i've always wondered why guys always become more passive towards the end~ and it also explains why i am more willing to offer my help to new frens more than old frens... haha ok, tt sounds bad... i mean when i help old frens i will think like what have they done for me and if i should reallie help them, if it's realli out of the way... hmmz` yar~ at least now tt i know, maybe i should take note ` yupyup
1/11/2006 02:16:00 AM
catch a little raindrop...
